Sunday, November 14, 2004
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Parenting. Parenthood. What does it take to be someone else’s parents? Did anyone, in the first place, set a “requirement” for those who aspire to become good parents? This requirement is not usually seen, as a couple just have sex and out comes a baby. Well, then did any child set any criteria for their parents in order to classify them as good parents? It would be preposterous for anyone to do so. The elders will most probably label them as not filial or something else even worse. (In the olden days, yau siu kia).
Frankly, I did set a list of criteria in order to be classified as good parents. They do not have to be extremely rich or be so loving. Just a balance between the two will do. After all, it’s not to advisable being extremists. My parents. I guess its not easy being my parents. However, I sometimes do think that they contradict themselves in whatever they say. For example, my mum once told my sister that it is wrong to hit her brother and that she should respect her brothers. However, when my sister and my brother quarreled, she instructed my sister to beat my brother, as in tit for tat. Isn’t this obvious contradiction?
People, or rather human, when in the wrong, will usually push the blame to others, and not themselves. I don’t deny committing that, but I do apologize after I acknowledge my mistake. It’s the 21st Century and everybody is talking about being open-minded. I guess this is to a certain extent. Why is there still the paradox that parents still remain as chauvinistic as ever? The elders cannot apologize to the younger generation for fear of losing the respect. What is this? Preposterous! They teach their children to apologize when in the wrong and they themselves don’t do it. What an irony. Do children have to subject to verbal abuse by uncouth parents?
I don’t know what my folks are thinking and I’m not sure whether I’m a good child in their eyes. I’m definitely not the type who keeps quiet even when wrongly accused. A vehement argument is usually followed up. Bad child? I think so. Guess they must have been regretting for the past 16 years for giving birth to me. I feel that I’d changed a lot for the better but they don’t think so. I’ve lowered my expectations so much that I feel that I’m so…Never mind. They are always badgering and they don’t seem to be able to stop. Why? Is nagging an addiction as well?
I’m not happy with my life. Everything seems to be determined to play me out. Why is it so unfair? Although life is never fair, but can’t people make the world a better place to live in by being a little fairer and show less biasness? In a company, the CEO practices favouritism. In school, the teacher practices favourtism. At home, one also can see parents practicing favourtism. Is this a tradition that cannot be stopped, and cannot be omitted? I hate favouritism. I lose out because I don’t flatter people who don’t deserve my flattery. By the tradition, straightforward people always loses out and mind you, this is a proven theory.
Finally, I want to make a request. If you don’t have what it takes to be a parent, be it financially, physically or emotionally, DON’T reproduce. By doing so, you are actually depriving the unreincarnated soul from a nice and happy family one always yearn for. Do remember that everybody has pride. Even a child. Do not subject your child to verbal or physical abuse, for these will leave a very deep impression and will affect the well-being of the child.
Frankly, I did set a list of criteria in order to be classified as good parents. They do not have to be extremely rich or be so loving. Just a balance between the two will do. After all, it’s not to advisable being extremists. My parents. I guess its not easy being my parents. However, I sometimes do think that they contradict themselves in whatever they say. For example, my mum once told my sister that it is wrong to hit her brother and that she should respect her brothers. However, when my sister and my brother quarreled, she instructed my sister to beat my brother, as in tit for tat. Isn’t this obvious contradiction?
People, or rather human, when in the wrong, will usually push the blame to others, and not themselves. I don’t deny committing that, but I do apologize after I acknowledge my mistake. It’s the 21st Century and everybody is talking about being open-minded. I guess this is to a certain extent. Why is there still the paradox that parents still remain as chauvinistic as ever? The elders cannot apologize to the younger generation for fear of losing the respect. What is this? Preposterous! They teach their children to apologize when in the wrong and they themselves don’t do it. What an irony. Do children have to subject to verbal abuse by uncouth parents?
I don’t know what my folks are thinking and I’m not sure whether I’m a good child in their eyes. I’m definitely not the type who keeps quiet even when wrongly accused. A vehement argument is usually followed up. Bad child? I think so. Guess they must have been regretting for the past 16 years for giving birth to me. I feel that I’d changed a lot for the better but they don’t think so. I’ve lowered my expectations so much that I feel that I’m so…Never mind. They are always badgering and they don’t seem to be able to stop. Why? Is nagging an addiction as well?
I’m not happy with my life. Everything seems to be determined to play me out. Why is it so unfair? Although life is never fair, but can’t people make the world a better place to live in by being a little fairer and show less biasness? In a company, the CEO practices favouritism. In school, the teacher practices favourtism. At home, one also can see parents practicing favourtism. Is this a tradition that cannot be stopped, and cannot be omitted? I hate favouritism. I lose out because I don’t flatter people who don’t deserve my flattery. By the tradition, straightforward people always loses out and mind you, this is a proven theory.
Finally, I want to make a request. If you don’t have what it takes to be a parent, be it financially, physically or emotionally, DON’T reproduce. By doing so, you are actually depriving the unreincarnated soul from a nice and happy family one always yearn for. Do remember that everybody has pride. Even a child. Do not subject your child to verbal or physical abuse, for these will leave a very deep impression and will affect the well-being of the child.
Are You Ga(me)?, 9:42 AM.
